Posts Tagged ‘perfectionism’

Her Strained Smile: Covert Postpartum Depression

I&MatWodocCropTo anyone looking in, I was the always-gleaming, highly achieving mom of a darling baby boy. For me looking out, I felt like I was drowning. While inside I struggled, outside I strained to present a status-quo face. I wore J. Crew, prepared organic baby food, went to Mommy & Me, clenched my teeth, and tried to keep it together. I looked good on paper.

I was living what Clarissa Pinkola Estés calls the grinning depression. My mounting inner conflict made me feel like an alien in a world of seemingly happy mothers-who-adored-mothering.

The first person who helped me feel like not an alien? Not any of a stream of therapists, nor any of my studies toward my doctorate in early human development. Not my OB/GYN. I have Brooke Shields to thank for my big ah-hah. {Read the whole post at Natural Baby Pros}

Parent-for-Peace Spotlight: “I’m A Recovering Perfectionist”

Embracing the Flow
by Stephanie Evans Hanson

  •  Hello.  My name is Stephanie, and I am a “Present Past Perfectionist.”  Admission is the first step, right?  Left unchecked, this is how my brain typically works:  I wake up each morning with a to do list in my head, constantly thinking about the next item I need to complete.  I move through the day accomplishing one task after the other, trying to keep up with the daily chores that I have to do, as well as the projects that I invent for myself. (more…)