Friday, November 11th, 2011

In The Beginning…

In every phenomenon the beginning remains always the most notable moment.Thomas Carlyle•

One thing I’ve learned, through both painful and positive experience, is that the successful flourishing of any project, product, event… or person, is seeded right at the beginning. Imagine setting off in a boat with the intention of sailing to a distant island, but having miscalculated your route by even just a tiny degree: everything will seem fine and dandy for awhile, maybe even for days. But as those tiny degrees of misdirection exponentially add up over many miles, you will at some point realize you are ending up far from where you wanted to be.

A mantra from chaos theory goes, “Sensitive dependence on initial conditions.”

This applies whenever something new is brought into being: cookies, crops, houses, stories, songs, sweaters, people. Read the rest of this entry »

Monday, January 25th, 2016

If It Seems Like I’m Gone…

…I want to reassure you that I’m not. It may seem like you’re hearing (reading??) crickets from me these days, so I’d like to offer a bit of explanation.

The past several months have put every molecule of me to the test — preparing and then putting on two webinars launching the new “5 Parenting for Peace Tools” program in October; traveling and teaching a huge 3-day intensive course in Brazil in November; losing use of my computer mid-December for a month; and ending the year in bed with the horrenza-flu, which soon after New Years morphed into — egads, it’s so cliché! — pneumonia.

All that, together with a milestone birthday approaching next month, has led me to choose to take some time to step back from everything** that has become my professional routine for the past four years since Parenting for Peace was published. For this big birthday, I’m giving myself the gift of time.

Time to reassess, to contemplate, to vision and reenvision: What really matters, and how can I be of most use? What is it I’m truly here on this planet to do? And how can I do it in such a way that (at least most of the time) makes my soul rise with joy & meaning?

Quantum Cool in Everyday Life

I’m a big fan of a principle I call “emergent novelty,” something very cool I discovered when studying how consciousness studies and quantum theory relate. I’ve witnessed how amazing original ideas, impulses and clarity can arise IF a person (or group of people) is daring enough to sit fully, deeply and trustfully in the foggy NOT-knowing space as long as is needed.

In this never-miss-a-blog-or-a-status-update-or-a-tweet-or-comment climate, that can feel a bit scary. But I’m venturing in, with the heart of an adventuress. I’m finding a space in the fog where I can sit and let the shape of my so-called “Act 3″ begin to reveal itself to me.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not dropping off the edge of the earth and not even completely off the edge of social media. You’ll see a tweet or update from me on occasion.

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I’m also going to use the time to work on a couple substantive pieces of writing that I’ve been putting off for (literally!) years — including an in-depth series on lesser-explored aspects of waterbirth.

[**And of course I will still be serving my Coaching & Care Circle members with live calls every other week and feedback on the private FB group. That always makes my soul rise!]

Lots of Dr. Marcy Juice Available

If you find yourself having a Dr. Marcy jones, no worries. I’ve written so many blog posts on so many topics, you won’t have to go without. When you’re at my website, use the homepage tag cloud or type a term into the search window (on any page but the homepage), and you’ll find tons.

Or, if you’re on my mailing list and have saved past P4P newsletters, you might rifle back through some older issues and find stuff that didn’t spark for you then, but does now.

Participate in My Emergent Novelty!

Would you like to contribute to my sitting-in-the-fog process? I invite you to be in touch and let me know if what you have been discovering from me through Parenting for Peace is of value to you… and if so, specifically which aspects you find most helpful… and what you might want to see more of.

I’d also be very open to hearing if you have not felt served by the P4P offerings (I promise to not take it personally… it’s one of the perks of my upcoming milestone birthday… you just don’t sweat that stuff so much!)… and what you would like to see instead!

Please know that I carry you in my heart as I take this pause, with the abiding question, How can I best serve you??

As I walk through my season of recovery, review and realignment, I also invite you, if it resonates and feels right, to join me in stepping back a bit from the din — whatever that means for you. Invite some quieter, wider-open space for emergent novelty to bloom in you!

Catch you on the flip side…

 

 

Thursday, December 3rd, 2015

How We Help Teens Thrive… or Not

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Few words strike as much terror in the hearts of parents as “teenager.” And yet we all were teens… and still have aspects of our own adolescent within.

The more we can recognize, embrace and honor the unique strengths and opportunities of this potent developmental phase of life, the more we can empower ourselves to be — and raise — peacemakers!

And I don’t know about you, but at this moment in the life of our human family, I could stand to feel a bit more empowered, and a bit less discouraged. I need to remind myself right now about the power we can have in our lives… to shape our cells, our selves, and our children who are on the cusp of adulthood. {Read more at mothering.com}

Friday, October 30th, 2015

Boo! Are Fairy Tales Too Scary for Children?

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“But they’re so awful!

This is a response I often hear from parents when I recommend Grimm’s fairy tales as basic reading fare.  The idea of regaling their young children with stories of orphans and witches, kidnappings and murders — at bedtime no less — is daunting, understandably.

As parents we tend to want to present something of a Hallmark world to our children, so we naturally gravitate to soothing, sunny, children’s books, including sanitized versions of fairy tales classics.  Wishing to shield them from the darker aspects of humanity, such as anger, greed, anguish, and cruelty, we wean our children on the proposition that people are all good.

The problem is that even the youngest child knows differently in her heart of hearts.

{…and that is where real fairy tales come in. Read more at Mothering…} 

Saturday, October 17th, 2015

Do You Suffer from Stressed-Parent Syndrome?

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It seems epidemic these days: an undercurrent of stress and anxiety thrums at the heart of parenting, even for the most “conscious” parents. In fact, probably even more for the really conscious, attuned ones — ever more conscious and attuned to our shortcomings!

How about you — do you feel this parenting stress? Do you perpetually feel like you’re a just a little behind the 8-ball, probably missing some crucial enrichment opportunity so now your child will be behind? I have some thoughts on this, and an awesome FREE resource for you to turn it around. Read more at Mothering.

 

And / or, if you want to zip straight to the awesome free resource for you to turn it around, here you go — it’s a webinar happening this week, so save your spot!!

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Thursday, October 22 | 11am OR 4pm Pacific

 

I thank you ten times a day for the depth and richness
yet simplicity your work has introduced into our already
thriving little family. ~ Elizabeth Bolden, mother of two sons

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Past related posts:
Ease Parenting Stress Through Mastery
How A Coach Helps
AuthoritaTIVE Parenting Not AuthoritaRIAN Parenting

Tuesday, September 1st, 2015

4 Ways to De-Stress Back to School

I have to giggle, since it seems like just a few weeks ago that I was writing about the stress that happens for some parents when school ends for summer vacation! And now here we are at that other kind of “Eek!” moment — back-to-school.

I happen to think it’s just plain un-American to have school start up before Labor Day, but hey, I’m just old-school that way. I know many of you are not only already back to school, but also back to a smooth, well-oiled school-season routine.

If that doesn’t describe you (and it sure didn’t describe me in the early weeks of oh-too-soon fall), then you might enjoy these ideas for bringing more ease, confidence and enjoyment into the whole affair. They’re right here, at mothering.com. 

Friday, July 3rd, 2015

Birth & Vaccination: Are We REALLY Independent??

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I don’t mean to be a buzz-kill, truly I don’t. It’s just that I made this pact with myself, on behalf of the wellbeing of mothers and babies: I decided a few years back to run this not-so-celebratory article every year on America’s birthday, as long as our country continues to show up so poorly in world rankings on maternal health. I’ll get to that in a moment, but first some breaking news. (Settle in, grab a cuppa, this is long… or should I say in more inviting terms, epic. This really is historic, and it deserves all the words it takes.)

Vaccination Nation?

California this week passed SB 277 and Governor Brown signed it into law, eliminating vaccine exemptions for philosophical, religious or medical beliefs. Under this law, parents are required to fully vaccinate their children for them to be eligible for public school admittance. The one exception is having a doctor’s note. (This strikes me as a loophole that may end up blowing back on progressive doctors; I’m envisioning waiting rooms overflowing with parents clamoring for the coveted Doctor’s Note.)

Read more at mothering.com

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

My Slow-Summer Manifesto

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“Manifesto” may be a bit strong. Let’s call it my Summer Declaration of Insouciance — and I invite you to join me!

The rest of the year features so many “shoulds,” and we are all such dutiful, high-aiming accomplishers, am I right? With its naturally slower rhythm, summer is a great time to zero in on one or two interests / projects to get us out of bed in the morning… and then give ourselves (and our kids!) a respite from other “shoulds.”

Kick off your shoes and feel the grass between your toes… or maybe it’s sand. Lie back and feel the warm breeze dance across your face. Let the kids go nuts on the slip ‘n slide while you read something delicious. Ahhhhhh, slow summertime.

Believe me, as I write this I’m asking myself, Really?? Can I really do this??! Can I really focus just on the cool projects I’m preparing for fall, and let the whole bloggy social media perpetual motion machine grind on (mostly) without my contributions?? I’m aiming to find out. (Making it a public declaration like this seems like it might help me with accountability — give me a holler if you see me around the blog-o-sphere too much, will ya?!)

I find wise guidance in this oh-so-short essay by Brianna West on happiness. (Her definition of happiness is the most helpful & brilliant I’ve ever come across!). She points out how curiosity and enthusiasm nurture happiness, and emphasizes the importance of “discovering that which compels your mind and soul.” And, I would add, re-discovering it continually throughout life.

That is my goal for this summer, so I can return to the “should” life in fall refreshed, recharged and refocused. I’ll leave you with a tip that can help you weave a summer rhythm that will work for everyone!

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Friday, June 12th, 2015

Pregnant Fathers?

LPDadAndBellyBabyThe moment a guy first learns that his partner is pregnant — that he is going to become a father! — is momentous. For some, it sets off a riotous pinball cascade of doubts, fears, pride, excitement. For others, the inner landscape goes utterly silent. You get my point — it’s huge.

And yet, aside from a congratulatory slap on the back… a “Nice going” wink-wink… this new landscape an expectant father has just entered goes largely ignored. {Read more at mothering.com}

Tuesday, June 2nd, 2015

My Child’s Out of School — Eek!

SummerVacayFeatured2Are you quietly (or not-so-quietly) dreading your child’s school summer vacation — wondering how you’re going to fill the vast expanses of hot days with “bored” kids? How you’re going to stick to your values about screened media, while retaining your sanity? Oh, and by the way, hopefully enjoying some semblance of calm and enJOYment?!

Here are five guidelines to help you not just survive summer, but actually cultivate more ease & harmony as you “wire” yourself and your children for joy & wellbeing in the coming year!

Before reading more about these Summer-Sanity ideas at mothering.com, here’s a little “secret tip” that will help ensure the success of any routine you come up with — for summer or anytime!

 

Okay, let me at those ideas!!  mothering.com 

 

Image:
sachatrtl Flickr | Creative Commons

Thursday, May 28th, 2015

Simplicity Series: Small Posts for Big Growth

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As summer lingers just around the corner, with its invitation to slow down and savor life…

4 nuggets of practical guidance that weave together all 7 Parenting for Peace principles:

Presence
Awareness
Rhythm
Example
Nurturance
Trust
Simplicity

At its heart & soul, Parenting for Peace is indeed this… simple

 

Mining Joy from the Muck of Daily Mothering | Motherhood broke me open, and then squeezed me through the muck of daily mothering toward wholeness. Here are two (of many) guiding concepts that saw me through.

Got Trust? The Antidote for Insecurity & Stress | I define trust as “calm reliance upon things outside your perception or control.” Here are a few tried and true ways to fill your inner reservoir of trust. 

Three Simple Ways to Nurture Yourself | The more you as a parent can nurture yourself, the more easeful your day-to-day life with children becomes — and the more healthy their development!

The Power of Example = 3 Cool Mothering Hacks | For more harmony with your children, more calm & confidence in your parenting, and more connection with your partner, harness the power of example.